Oh the cliche things you are going to hear on this, the infamous Valentine’s Day. From grumpy single people who declare their only true love is wine, to proudly single people who are perfectly self satisfied and don’t need nothin’ you got to offer. Prepare yourself for couples professing their undying love for each other everywhere you turn, especially all over social media. Enjoy reading how lucky they feel that they have found their Other and how smart, hot, and not-you their Other is.
I almost wish I could say that I look down my nose at Valentine’s Day as a fabrication of Hallmark, capitalism and people in bad relationships who need an excuse to spice things up. If only I thought everyone in a relationship today is an obnoxious shmuck who is purposefully rubbing my face in my singledom, relishing that they don’t have to deal with drudging this holiday alone.
But, I don’t. I love Valentine’s Day. Yes that’s unhip and completely unoriginal, but as per usual, totally fine with that. Have said it before and will say it again: I love love.
It’s been about 10 years since I’ve spent a Valentine’s Day as single folk, and for some reason I’m looking forward to going it alone. Maybe it’s because I don’t have to worry about dinner reservations anywhere and haven’t had to pick out a sassy little red number to wear for a special Him. I didn’t spend 30 minutes scouring the Valentine’s Day aisle at the very last minute. Normally I’m panicking among the other V-Day slackers trying to pick a clever card that isn’t trite or gooshy, and my options are out of the garbage ones that are left over by the people who are competently prepared in their lives.
Nope. None of that. Today I’m going to enjoy watching others celebrate and enjoy the lack of pressure to come up with something sweet. I am genuinely happy for them, because it’s an amazing feeling to be loved exclusively by another person.
Yea yea, I’m sitting here talking about me and how for some reason I feel reasonably secure. But I want to share this information because I know for some people today is a rough day. I’m here to point out today doesn’t have to be crappy or end in a drunken lonely stupor. I’m writing this for you, person on your phone or desktop. It doesn’t matter if you are or are not in a relationship, I genuinely hope you feel loved today.
I would think it’s easier for people in a relationship to enjoy the holiday, so I’ll let you be. But for those who are single, here’s how I’m approaching it. I don’t know what is going to happen today and I find that super exciting. Today, just like any other day, has nothing romantic in store expected whatsoever.
The only thing that today represents is possibility. And in that, feel loved.